Coming Out to Dad

Hi everyone... just wanted to give you all an update on the coming out to Dad thing.

Of my immediate family (Mom, Dad, little sister), he was the one that I was least worried about.  We have a good relationship already and, even though coming out to him would show him a totally different side, I don't think our relationship would change.

The evening started out nicely... we got together for dinner and my parents house (Mom is out of town on a trip with her girlies).  My Dad picked up the sushi rolls and I made a yummy Chinese soup.  We ate, we chatted about 'stuff' and eventually finished eating.

Dad and I cleared the table and then started to talk... well, more listening for him and talking for him.  I took him through my entire history... starting off dressing, Southern Comfort and coming to terms and accepting who I am.

My Dad, an engineer, listened carefully and I could tell the gears were turning in his head.  I know he was processing everything I was telling him.... even though he didn't really say anything or have any questions.  Eventually, though, he was supportive.... I mean, a ts child isn't your first choice for your kid's future... but I wanted him to understand how I am who I am... and that this was something I need to do.  

My Dad talked to me about finding inner strength and 'having to be yourself.'  It was refreshing that he was focused on my life... my future... rather than his own concerns.  He also told me that he was not going to be judgmental.  I know my Dad and I love my Dad.... and I felt good coming out to him, knowing that I knew there was no way he was going to take this news badly... and he didn't disappoint me.

On the surface, this may seem like a whole lot of nothing since it was so anticlimactic ... but, for me, this is just another small, but important step in my transition.  Over time, I know he'll be more comfortable about accepting me as his daughter... and that makes me feel just a bit better about things....